This is a brief of how I discovered NLP,
and how it has transformed my personal life........ for the last 30 plus years
In 1981 I discovered I had cervical cancer ............ I was totally devastated,
.........so much was not working out in my life at that time
My Doctor informed me that I had cervical cancer in the early stages, and because of my history of 10 long term failed pregnancies, and after spending long periods in hospital, that he had to recommended I have a hysterectomy immediately –
That really I had no choice ………… otherwise they told me I could have 3months to 3 years of life expectancy.
That is all they could promise me at that time.
I was shattered,
all I ever wanted was to have children of my own and this would prevent me ever having this dream fulfilled. Having been pregnant 10 times where I had the baby die in the womb 7 times, and miscarried three times I was told that I could not afford to get pregnant again and my choice was to have the operation now or they could not give me a time, as to how long I would have. Women with cervical cancer had survived up to three years and others had not lasted 6 months. I felt that all of my dreams had been shattered – what did I have to live for?
33 years ago, on December the 5th I had the hysterectomy ……………………
Then after a lot of therapy, counselling, and self exploration about things that had happened in my life as a child, dysfunctional very fearful relationships with my siblings, I used to live in so much fear that I would hide in the wardrobe if my parents were not home, my grief from losing my father to a heart attack, and so many unresolved issues that I was always told to just sweep it under the carpet and it would just all go away ...................................... but it didn't. Thanks to my wonderful local Doctor, Dr Robbie Fleming, and a counsellor/therapist who believed in me and my ability to change, my life changed and this is now history. (when you are my age, 33 years ago is history).
I had the confidence to go it alone and make some healthier choices, no longer choosing to be a part of toxic reloationships that created very contaminated, and fearful environment.
I left a dysfunctional marriage and started a journey of rediscovering the beauty of life.
I took a very good look at what I was doing in my life, how I was living my life and what did I have to change so that my life would extend beyond all the predictions that were being thrown around. I finally made a decision to leave an unhappy emotionally abusive marriage, which was contaminated and toxic because of the circumstances that surrounded us. I began to involve myself in some personal development and give myself the gift of healing and a longer life. It was not all a bed of roses but it has been the best decision of my life – to leave a very toxic relationship, get off my butt and
invest in the most important asset I had – which was ME and was very lucky to have the support of my Mother and very special friends in my life that made it all possible.
I spent very valuable time on my own, for myself, learning, discovering and healing ...... and for the first time really appreciating the real me that had been hiding within me, I moved to the city and began to meet new people and was surrounded by positive people who supported my growth and changes and encouraged me to do more with my life. This began me on my journey of learning and continuing my education in the beauty Therapy industry and in personal self development. After 1 year so many things had changed in my life and I was enjoying who I was, the life I was living and sharing all this with the wonderful friends I had, that supported me in many different ways, and those that could not accept the new me, went their own way with me choosing to move on, I was now setting boundaries to create a healthier life, spending time with people who supported my change and growth and many people moved out of my life.
Jon, who has been my friend for 25yrs, and is now my husband of 23+ years, together we attended a six week course with John Kehoe of Mind Power, we became awakened to so many things that we had not really thought about and began putting them to work4us. My health improved, my energy improved, I was happy, I was motivated, I had so much more understanding of peoples differences, understood where I maybe could have done things differently in my life, and was excited about all that had changed for me, and I was enjoying my life again with lots of very special people who supported my vision, and encouraged me standing beside me as I developed and grew, and the many trainers who became mentors for me.
Jon and I then attended some weekend workshops, where I began assisting and met an NLP Therapist , Ken, who introduced us to Dr. Tad James trainings where we completed the NLP Prac, Master Prac, Personal Evolution program, Trainers training in America as well as some other of his trainings. At this time I began researching on the internet and started to buy some products, audios etc from differenttrainers and a whole new world opened up for me. I realized that I had ‘too much baggage’ that had to be cleaned out, and this is whereI came to the realization that I had a lot of people in my life that had me there for what I could give them or do for them and this was not healthy for me and my boundaries were being violated because of my over generous nature. It was at this time that I came across Dr. Bob Bodenhamer and Dr. Michael Hall and had purchased most of their training materials when they began coming to Australia., by this time I had established a good relationship speaking with Bob, who has become a very dear friend and we have enjoyed training together. Jon and I have both completed numerous trainings with Neuro-Semantics which they founded, and completed their trainers training and achieved Meta-coaching certificates.